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February 1st, 2012 by admin
Very sad. As boomers, we also made the commitment to remain married for life (as both our parents did), which worked until the final therapist of a long series told me to leave the family home as it was making me physically ill. Fortunately, all the children were grown and out of college by that time. But he was right; I had been made ill by the marriage. The divorce was crushing, financially devastating and took over a year. We are both better now; I have moved on and after the diabetes showed up she opted for gastric bypass kim kardashian plastic surgery to deal with the 250 lbs she gained over the 27 year marriage; the result of the underlying and undiagnosed clinical depression and bi-polar disorder.
From that experience I would implore any couple to seek help at the first sign of trouble. I have actually suggested my children arrange for the divorce before the wedding to ensure everybody knows their roles and responsibilities to each other, just to keep everybody honest and to arrange for marriage counseling before the marriage to learn the tools of communication, as men and women communicate very differently. As I suggested to my son, that was why God gave him sisters. to learn about women. The converse is true as well, of course. But we’re kind of dense; it takes a little more…
I would like to report that the entire family is doing pretty well after all this, although I would be a fool to believe the years of screaming and yelling (there was never physicality) has not damaged the children to some degree. My ex and I can communicate pretty well now, and are interested in each other’s lives, our children’s lives and mutually encourage. I am proud of her. (And I don’t mean to suggest the problem was all hers, just that hers was clinical; mine was just me being a jerk.)
After the divorce, I thought I would never marry again. I don’t say that now, even though wife next (and last, I hope!) and I will know the rules better and have a more mature agreement regards the relationship, not to mention the pre-agreed legal documents; there’s a lot to lose at our age, an artifact not of failed relationships but of courts and lawyers doing even further damage to damaged relationships. And if I ever had any respect for lawyers prior to my exposure to family court (and without children even!) I don’t now. Neither hers nor my well being ever entered into our lawyer’s minds; they were merely warriors and accountants. Her lawyer charged her five times what mine charged me, and was responsible for endless delays and prevarications to generate fees. The ex hates her to this day, and is still paying the bill.
Lastly, I would encourage the author to get some help for herself, her children and her ex. It helped me immensely. Life is good.
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